What to Expect from Your Divorce Lawyer [5 Key Things]

By | Published On: February 5, 2024

Many people have interacted with an estate attorney or a real estate attorney before; however, as a person thinking about divorce, this is likely the first time you have contemplated retaining counsel for such a highly personal matter. Whether you’re the one initiating the separation or divorce or responding to a request for one, it’s important to have a clear idea about what you should expect from your attorney.

Here are five things to expect from your divorce attorney:

1. They hold regular meetings

It’s important to have regular face-to-face or virtual meetings with your attorney. Sometimes, the most effective and efficient way to devise a plan of action is to sit in a conference room (or virtually) with your attorney to talk through options. Meetings are the setting where strategy is developed and difficult decisions are made. You should feel free to ask your attorney to meet with you frequently and continue each meeting for as long as you need to feel comfortable and confident.

2. They keep you informed

You’re entitled to be kept informed of all the key aspects of your matter, including:

  • Its status
  • Approaching deadlines, such as exchanging information with the other side
  • Do’s and don’ts of appropriate behavior
  • Upcoming responsibilities, such as attending parenting classes if custody is at issue in your case

3. They’re forthright and set realistic expectations

It’s critical for your attorney to be realistic, honest and upfront with you regarding every aspect of your case, including what a realistic outcome might be for you if you take your matter to trial. Although you’d probably prefer that your counsel tell you what you want to hear, this approach won’t serve you well.

4. They prioritize your physical and emotional well-being

Getting divorced is highly stressful. Your attorney should be attuned to every aspect of your well-being, including your physical and mental health, and they should provide you with advice and resources to help you through this challenging time.

5. They serve as your advocate

Although you need your attorney to help you develop realistic expectations, you also have a right to expect them to be on your side, to listen and (within certain ethical limits) to advocate strongly and forcefully for your positions and interests and those of your children.

Divorce is a significant life event — how you divorce and who you choose for your divorce lawyer can make a difference. As you look for a divorce attorney to represent you, plan to interview more than one. It’s essential to find someone you’re comfortable with, whose skills and experience are a good fit for you, given your unique situation and goals, and whom you trust.

Emily C. Baker is a family law attorney and partner at Tucker PLLC. For more information, contact Emily at ebaker@tuckerfamilylaw.com or schedule a consultation.

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