The Modern Divorce is Collaborative Divorce

By | Published On: January 15, 2023

The Modern Divorce, a blog series, looks at all aspects and considerations of the Collaborative Divorce Process. This is the first post of a multi-part series.

When you think about divorce, what image comes to mind? For many pop-culture fans, War of the Roses, a movie filmed in 1989, represents the “typical” divorce. In this film, the couple fights to the point of death, with no one, not even their children, emerging victorious. Thirty years later, many divorces are, and can be, very different.

Many people today opt for a much newer process called “Collaborative Divorce.” In a Collaborative Divorce, spouses work with their attorneys to negotiate a settlement that respects both parties’ interests. The parties agree to resolve the matter outside of court and agree to fully disclose all relevant matters. This process can be used for couples in any stage of their relationship, whether they are still friendly or not.

The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce for Families

Collaborative divorce is an approach that prioritizes the well-being of the child and the preservation of the relationship between the parents post-divorce. This process has several benefits for families, including:

  • Promoting a better co-parenting relationship post-divorce
  • Ensuring that the child’s best interests are taken into account
  • Encouraging open communication and cooperation between the parents
  • Providing for a more creative resolution of financial assets
  • Reducing stress and financial burden on the parents and the child

Crafting a Durable Agreement in Collaborative Divorce

The goal of Collaborative Divorce is to create a long-lasting agreement that serves the needs of both parties and their families for years to come. This agreement is crafted with the help of the collaborative team, which includes the couple and their attorneys, as well as any professionals needed.

The Role of Professionals in the Collaborative Divorce Process

The Collaborative Divorce process brings in professionals to help each client and their attorneys create a resolution that serves their unique needs. This includes experts such as:

  • Divorce coaches who work with clients to help them navigate the emotional and psychological aspects of divorce
  • Trained mental health professionals, such as counselors or therapists, who provide support, guidance and strategies for coping with the stress and uncertainty of the process
  • Financial neutrals who help clients understand and resolve financial issues related to the divorce
  • Child specialists who help clients and their attorneys understand and resolve issues related to the care and well-being of children

Since each family is different, each family will have different professional needs in this process. Throughout this series, we will describe common scenarios we encounter and how the collaborative law process can be beneficial in each situation.

Contact a Collaborative Divorce Attorney

In no other area of your life would someone expect everything about your world to change and you and your family to master it overnight. Collaborative Divorce is the support system you need to transition your family from married to divorced without sacrificing your or your children’s health or happiness.

Blog Series: The Modern Divorce

The Modern Divorce Series Preview: The second post in the series will examine the cost savings of a Collaborative Divorce.

Emily C. Baker is a family law attorney and partner at Tucker PLLC. For more information on Collaborative Divorce, contact Emily at or to schedule a consultation.

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